Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationship

A night full of talking that hurts,
My worst held-back secrets;
Everything has to do with loving and not loving.

-RUMI

It's been so long that I've last logged in to my blog. I thought of re-designing the entire blog but I really had no idea.I'm really worned out!Actually,many things had happened that I cant even stop to catch my own breath.I cant wait for school to reopen.I miss all my beloved frens.

Basically, my holiday is well-spent doing enriching and meaningful things.I have to admit that I've been reading so many books.Only by reading, I could keep my mind busy all the time, absorbing newer information so that I dont have to think so much about what had happened and also to make myself more knowleadgeable.I dont know what I should write but I just love the book that I was reading "Healing The Wound Of The Heart". I am not sure why I've choosen the book but my instinct told me that its a good book written by a brillant author.And it proven me right :) Hookay, allow me to share, hopefully it will benefit you and me.

The book begins by showing how all our relational problems arise that core wounding around love that affects not only our personal relationship but the quality of life in our world as a whole. This wound show up as a pervasive mood of unlove- a deep sense that we not lovable just as we are. And this shuts down our capacity to trust, so that even though we may hunger for love, we have difficulty opening it and letting it circulate freely through us.

The words "I LOVE YOU," spoken in moments of genuine appreciation, wonder or caring, arise from something perfectly pure within us. I would define love very simply: openess and warmth, which allow me to make real contact with the person whom I love and taking delight by appreciating him in my life.

Such moments of pure openheartedness bring us as close to natural perfection as we can come in this life. So right alongside the truth of love's perfection, there stands another, more difficult truth - the flawed, tangled of human relationship which gives rise to tremendous sorrow and frustration. One minute you're touch with the love in your heart - you feel open, caring and connected. And then the next minute, before you know it, you and your loved one have embroiled in a conflict or misuderstandings that lead to shutting down or behaving in a cruel, heartless manner.

Thus,even when our love is genuine and real, something seems to block its full and perfect expression in relationships."I love you, but I cant't live with you" or "My heart has stopped loving you" is the classic statement of this painful gap between the pure love in our heart and the difficult realtionhsip that many of us inhabit.This must be solved or torn to bits.

Eventhough love forever arises anew, many walk around feeling deprived of it, And while love brings tremendous joy, our love life often brings greatest suffering.Even though there is nothing as simple and straightforward as the warmth of the heart, still, for one human being to love another, this is the most dfficult of all their tasks. The sense of loneliness afflicting many lives is not because love is in short supply. As for you, can find love everywhere.As a partime sales assistant, every smile I make and most of the conversation and glances I exchange with people I encounter every day contain at least a grain of love, in the form of interest, appreciation, consideration, warmth or kindness. Add up all the interchanges I had, I've seen that my life is sustained by a flow of interconnectedness, which is the play of love at work.Again, it is how you want to see things. But I hope that many would see things that bring real meaning and contentment to their lives in a long run. So stop feeling belittle or sabotage whatever love is there.YOU need to feel appreciated to what God has lend it to you.As He will take it back if you dont know how to feel appreciated.

Whoever you are and where you come from,every soul in this entire world need to love and be loved.And I want to marry the man that truely love me and most importantly, I love him all my heart.